On the contrary, the problem is with sex, but not in the way you think. As one of my Reformed acquaintances noted over a phone conversation today, evangelicals obsess over sex and how much God’s love is like having sex with followers of Christ. Thus, they dwell and dwell on the little used metaphor of the Church as the Bride of Christ (Ephesian 5:21-33 and Revelation 19:7-8). It would also explain the general exclusion of the concerns of single Christians (both young and old) when it comes to ministry.
However, none of these verses refer to God’s love as eros; in Scripture, God is love (1st John 4), but it is agape, or non-selfish/self-disinterested objective affection. The greatest problem today that we have in these here United States of America is that people confuse love with eros. Eros is something that is seen as uncontrollable, yes? In God, however, there is no desire to lose control, and literally in the greek, it connotes a sense of a loss of sanity. The great difference between the One True God of Israel and the pagan deities of Greece and Rome is that YHWH is not going here or there, making babies on a whim. God, therefore, in not some HEDONIST, doing what He pleases for the sake of his own self-vindication and glory but God is inherently self-giving, and has chosen self-restriction/humiliation as God’s own way of loving all of creation. How do we know what God’s love is? It is in the Cross, plain and simple, where the God-Person Christ Jesus died as fully human and fully divine. This is what some theologians call Suffering Love. Now, it is not that God wipes a tear every time we do; that would be just as anthropomorphic as a select few people claiming to be
God’s Friends With Benefits the Elect. However, God does respond, and sometimes not in the way we like, such as wrath, solidarity, persuasion, anger, zeal, and even forbearance.
I just don’t see how a group of Christian thinkers dedicated to divine impassibility can continue to dwell on God as some sort of Significant Other and Spouse.
Boggles the mind, I tell ya.
I leave you with Clement of Alexandria:
“He is beyond space and time and anything belonging to created beings. He is contained by nothing.”
The Carpets (my translation of Stromata), Book 2